Sat, Aug. 12, 6:30-10:30 p.m., free for newcomers or $8 for club members, Carriage House, University of Pennsylvania, 3907 Spruce St., 302-983-5455

"It's bad enough that gay people are discriminated against, but big men are more so," says Miller, a 37-year-old caterer. Most of the socials have a theme, like Christmas in July or the annual bake-off, but Miller says this month's meeting will be a regrouping effort after a hiatus in July.

Although Miller recently had gastric bypass surgery and is slimmer than his previous 400 pounds, he pledges to stay with Girth and Mirth.

"I never forget where I was," says Miller, who has been a member of the club for 15 years and president for the last four. "I care too much about this club."